Heh. I hope you didn’t really sell your wife. 🙂
Anyway, I think the connection from iTunes to firefly “hangs” because the password is wrong. I once entered a wrong password and told him to remember, and all it did was keep trying to connect instead of asking for another password.
Do note, that firefly has 2 password. One to get into the admin page, and one to browse all the music (mp3 password). The mp3 password is asked by iTunes when connecting to firefly.
Hope this helps.